Reality-check for those on the verge of losing their Virginity

Is it going to be your first time? We expect a bit of apprehension and anxiety with dreams of absolutely rocking your partner. But wait, before you eventually break your record of abstinence, there might be a few things you should know about having sex for the first time. Things are not always what they seem like, the reality is often altered and the facts bloated by supposedly “experienced” folks. The idea is not to play a spoilsport but to ensure that you proceed with realistic expectations—we are not discussing the morality that is often associated with losing your virginity or the perfect time to lose it. This is an effort to get you acquainted with first-time sex.

Un-plan It…make it less-than-perfect

We come across many sexual tutorials on the web talking about how to plan your first time to make it special. Real-life accounts are a bit different. Too much planning can induce self-doubts. Trying to make everything perfect might make you too anxious. Yes, ensuring privacy and being left undisturbed is vital but don’t enter the nitty-gritty of lovemaking, just yet. Accept the fact that you are an amateur and just getting into the game. The best way to approach this is losing yourself in the moment. Let your instincts take over. A bed littered with roses or sleazy lingerie are not must-haves in your first attempt. Sensuality is best felt when it comes spontaneously, unannounced, unplanned…

Pay Attention…beyond yourself

Despite the wisdom gained from your colleagues, first time sexual encounters can be a bit confusing. Most people are susceptible to getting overwhelmed by the situation. Seeing your partner in the buff, touching the most intimate zones can distract you from the fact that he or she might be feeling uncomfortable. We don’t mean confronting her with an army of questions but ensure she feels comfortable. Many people recall their first time sexual encounters as being very mechanical and uncomfortable, underlining the fact that had their partner been more caring, things could have been different. So try being unselfish, reassuring your partner as you explore each other—if your mate seems too nervous at the moment of initiating intercourse, sit back, talk to each, take a deep breath, and try again…

What is shown in the movies, remains in the movies

The overload of pornography has twisted the reality for many first-timers. They expect themselves and their partners to perform with amazing ease. Well, sex, at least when doing it for the first time, is not so smooth. Not just the lady, the guy too is bound to experience some degree of pain. The most commonly preached stuff like putting on a condom might suddenly seem puzzling. Guys losing erection during their first encounter is more common than you think. Yes, "sex hurts" during the first couple of times and we don’t mean this in the kinky way. Be prepared to feel thrown out of your comfort zone…

Don’t Follow a Flowchart…lose yourself in the moment

Not just Eminem, even we can say this with confidence, having shared lots of our first-time stories - there is a pattern to most people having sex for the first time. It usually begins with lots of kissing, a bit of caressing and finally intercourse. Is there anything fundamentally wrong in it? No, absolutely not but why approach sex in such a tutored way? It might be slowly swaying to love rock ballads in the background that sets the mood for you and your partner. Ditch the guidelines and find out what can make it more exciting for both of you. This might mean slowly rubbing each other’s privates endlessly, cuddled in each other’s arms or trying oral. Think of your first couple of efforts being sexual discoveries, so explore the landscape and find what can ease you into intercourse rather than being academic about it…

Keep it Smart…

Besides condoms, also ensure you carry some extra sheets, wiping tissues and a few brews or chocolates—yes, slowly sipping on a pint or munching on dark chocolate is a great way to undo the awkwardness that often follows first-time sexual encounters. To conclude, we must emphasize on having your safety gear on. Try not to get too experimental with lubricants and condoms. Invest in safety essentials from global brands that come without any risks.


We are eager to know how was you first time?

If you are about to do it, we would love to hear if you have any particular plans and yes, any real losing-your-virginity tales to share?

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